12 Signs That You Are Dating a Man Child

CANTIKA.COM, Jakarta - We all have encountered a man who - despite his age and appearance of maturity - behaves far from grown up or immature. They can be charming, funny, and seem enjoyable at the beginning of the relationship. But over time, you start feeling like you're being a mother to them, not their partner.

Men like this are often referred to as "man child," emotionally and behaviorally immature. Maybe they don't know how to do laundry, always forget to pay bills, or panic every time you bring up the future. Sometimes, they even feel like their world is collapsing over trivial matters.

Psychotherapist Dr. Jenn Mann describes this type of man as someone who never seems to have really left the teenage phase. They can be funny and charming, but unfortunately, they can also emotionally drain you by constantly having to take care of them.

Here are 12 signs that you are dating a man child or an immature man:

1. His Place Is Always in Disarray

From piles of untouched laundry, dirty dishes everywhere, to a room that looks like it was hit by a tornado, his house reflects his personal chaos.

2. Still Acts like a College Kid

He enjoys excessive partying, immature jokes, and cannot be serious in crucial moments.

3. Always Has an Excuse

Every mistake is not his fault. Running late? It's because of traffic. Forgot? Because he's too busy. Failed to pay the bills? Because of a bank error.

4. Financially Messy

He struggles to hold down a job, is impulsive with spending, and always avoids financial responsibilities.

5. Addicted to Weed, Video Games, or Pornography

Spending hours on digital escapism and avoiding healthy emotional interactions.

6. Unreliable

He promises to come but forgets. Says he'll help, but you end up doing the work. He's present only when it's fun, not when you need him.

7. Can't Handle Criticism

Every time you express complaints or suggestions, he immediately gets offended, angry, or blames you.

8. Can't Manage Stress

Small things can make him extremely angry or desperate. His reactions are exaggerated and immature.

9. Afraid to Talk about the Future

Topics like marriage, kids, or long-term plans make him dodge or change the subject.

10. Can't Handle Adult Responsibilities

Simple tasks like making a doctor's appointment, cooking for himself, or doing laundry seem like a huge burden to him.

11. Pretends Not to Know

He pretends not to know how to do something so that you end up doing everything.

12. You Are Always the One Advising

You feel like you always have to remind, advise, or even scold him to take action. It's exhausting, not healthy love.

So What Should You Do?

If you recognize many of these signs in your relationship, reconsider. A relationship should be supportive, not one-sided parenting. Marrying a man child is not a solution; it can worsen the unhealthy dynamics in a marriage.

Love alone is not enough. Emotional maturity is the key. If you want a partner who grows together, not one who constantly depends on you like a child, then it's time to be firm.

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